Deepak Chopra's 9th Key to Happiness
“Replace fear-motivated behavior with love-motivated behavior. Fear is the product of memory, which dwells in the past. Remembering what hurt us before, we direct our energies toward making certain that an old hurt will not repeat itself. But trying to impose the past on the present will never wipe out the threat of being hurt. That happens only when you find the security of your own being, which is love. Motivated by the truth inside of you, you can face any threat because your inner strength in invulnerable to fear.” Deepak Chopra
When you think of your life, in this very moment, is it the life that you imagined you would be living? If it’s not, then why isn’t it? And, where did you imagine yourself to be? This can be applied to any aspect of your life: your career, your partner, your home location, your other relationships, your health, your time, your diet, your body, your mind, etcetera. Your life is what you make it and your journey through your life is all based on the decisions that you make.
More often than not, when we find ourselves unhappy or unsatisfied with a certain aspect of our life it is because the decision we made that got us there was fear-motivated. This doesn’t mean that you were physically shaking in your booties when you made a particular decision, it means that you chose a path that you deemed safer because of the fear of failure, fear being hurt (again), fear of disappointing others, or fear of repeating the past.
A life lived in fear though is a life lived in the past. And if you are living in the past, you can’t possibly be in the present that you imagined. So, instead of making fear-motivated decisions, make ones that stem from love. When we make decisions based on love, we are making decisions that are based on the present. It is okay to make mistakes. Let those mistakes stay where they belong though, in the past, and make new decisions based on the now. Our happiness is dependent on living in the only time that is actually relevant. Your inner strength will abound from switching your motivational force from something negative to something positive.
Unconditional self-love, love for others, and love for our Mother Earth is more powerful than any other force. When you live in love, you will find that you are living the life that you imagined you would be living.